Wedding Wording Etiquette

 Wedding Wording Etiquette

Wedding etiquette tips to keep in mind:

  • Elim­i­nate abbre­vi­a­tions except for social titles (Mr. & Mrs. & Ms.)
  • Jr. and Sr. can be abbre­vi­at­ed
  • Zip codes are omit­ted from the invi­ta­tion copy
  • The time of the event is spelled out (ex: 3:30pm should be writ­ten, half past three o’clock)
  • Mid­dle names are option­al but nev­er abbre­vi­at­ed
  • The British spelling of “hon­our” is the most tra­di­tion­al, how­ev­er you can use the Amer­i­can spelling “hon­or”.  Both are cor­rect.  How­ev­er, if you do choose to use “hon­our” use it con­sis­tent­ly through your wed­ding suite. (ex: If you use “hon­our” on your invi­ta­tion, use “The favour of a reply” on the respon­se card)
  • When the cer­e­mony is in a house of wor­ship, use the phrase “request the hono(u)r of your pres­ence.”  Oth­er­wise, “request the plea­sure of your com­pa­ny” is the cor­rect ver­biage for a non-reli­gious cer­e­mony out­side a house of wor­ship.
  • When a Roman Catholic Mass is part of the cer­e­mony, use the phras­ing “request the hono(u)r of your pres­ence / at the Nup­tial Mass Unit­ing…

The bride’s parents are hosting the event | Formal:

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Jor­dan Smith

request the hon­our of your pres­ence

at the mar­riage of their daugh­ter

Jes­si­ca Smith

to

Mr. Eric Fer­rara

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

Bride’s parents are hosting but you want to include the groom’s parents’ names | Formal

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Jor­dan Smith

request the hon­our of your pres­ence

at the mar­riage of their daugh­ter

Jes­si­ca Smith

to

Mr. Eric Fer­rara

son of Mr. and Mrs. Jim Ryan Fer­rara

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

Both the bride and the groom’s parents are financially contributing and hosting the event:

Option 1:

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Jor­dan Smith and

Mr. and Mrs. Jim Ryan Fer­rara

request the plea­sure of your com­pa­ny

at the mar­riage of their chil­dren

Option 2:

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Jor­dan Smith

togeth­er with

Mr. and Mrs. Jim Ryan Fer­rara

request the plea­sure of your com­pa­ny

at the mar­riage of their chil­dren

The Bride & Groom are hosting:

Option 1 | For­mal:

The hon­or of your pres­ence

is request­ed at the wed­ding of

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

to Eric Ryan Fer­rara

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

Option 2 | For­mal:

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

and

Eric Ryan Fer­rara

request the plea­sure of your com­pa­ny

at the cel­e­bra­tion of their wed­ding

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

Option 3 | Less For­mal:

In the cel­e­bra­tion of love,

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

and

Eric Ryan Fer­rara

request the plea­sure of your com­pa­ny

at their wed­ding

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

The couple is hosting the event with their families:

Togeth­er with their fam­i­lies

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

and Eric Ryan Fer­rara

request the plea­sure of your com­pa­ny

at the cel­e­bra­tion of their wed­ding

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand and thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

The groom’s parents are hosting:

Mr. and Mrs. Jim Ryan Fer­rara

request the hon­our of your pres­ence

at the mar­riage of

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

to their son

Eric Ryan Fer­rara

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

Divorced parents who did not re-marry:

Ms. Susan Cather­ine Karr (mother’s maid­en name)

Mr. Peter Ryan Smith

request the hon­our of your pres­ence

at the mar­riage of their daugh­ter

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

to

Mr. Eric Ryan Fer­rara

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

Divorced parents who did re-marry:

Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan M. Hewitt (bride’s moth­er & spouse)

Mr. and Mrs. Jim Ryan Fer­rara (bride’s father & spouse)

request the hon­our of your pres­ence

at the mar­riage of their daugh­ter

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

to

Mr. Eric Ryan Fer­rara

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

Both sets of parents are hosting and both sets of parents have re-married:

Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan M. Hewitt (bride’s moth­er & spouse)

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Ryan Smith (bride’s father & spouse)

and

Mr. and Mrs. Tim­o­thy Roy Welsh (groom’s moth­er & spouse)

Mr. and Mrs. Jim Ryan Fer­rara (groom’s father & spouse)

request the plea­sure of your com­pa­ny

at the mar­riage of

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

to

Mr. Eric Ryan Fer­rara

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand thir­teen

at three o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

A parent of the Bride is deceased:

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

daugh­ter of

Mrs. Susan Smith and the late Mr. Peter Smith

and

Mr. Eric Ryan Fer­rara

request the hon­our of your pres­ence at their wed­ding

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand fif­teen

at half past ten o’clock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low

A parent of the Groom is deceased | Both sides are contributing:

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Smith

togeth­er with

Mrs. Emi­ly Fer­rara

request the hon­our of your pres­ence at the wed­ding of

Jes­si­ca Susan Smith

and

Eric Ryan Fer­rara

son of the late Mr. Jim­my Fer­rara

Sat­ur­day, the fifth of June

two thou­sand fif­teen

at half past ten o’cock

Saint Anthony’s Catholic Church

Tren­ton, New Jer­sey

Recep­tion to fol­low